It is said that once you have enough money for essential things in life, that happiness does not get greater with external things. Happiness comes from within. 50% of our happiness is predetermined, genetic ; 10% is situational – life circumstances, job etc and 40% is changeable/modifiable – your attitude – how you decide to look at things. Happier people feel more fulfilled , whether the rickshaw driver in Bombay or farmer in the fields.
Being happy and laughing, we produce good hormones – dopamine and serotonin. Aerobic exercise is excellent at producing these too. These hormones improve mood. It is because of this biology that we do better after adversity by mixing with good friends to laugh at the funny things in life or weird things people say! It is because of this biology that taking steps towards some physical activity will pump out the good endorphins and change your mood. It is noted also that those people with good supports have better outcomes through adversity, encouraged to take next steps with more confidence.
Endorphins play a role in pain control. Pain has many components including emotional pain. If we don’t address all parts of pain control, then we will not control it. Controlling physical pain is only one part of pain control – sometimes a concept overlooked.
It is also noticed that there is a state that people can reach where your thoughts are uninterrupted and the mind is happily concentrating. I call it the place in your head where time stands still – doing art or tennis, for some it is music or running. It has been called Flow – producing good endorphins like meditation. It is pure science.
How can we do this? Activate your internal locus of control – The “I can do it” / determination part of you and learn to love and believe in the new and wonderful person that you are.
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Exercise: walk, elliptical, stationary bike
Mindfulness / flow: hobbies, yoga, meditation
Help others & give back
Find the good in a situation, no matter how hard
Focus life to living in the present
Take the tough climb, one step at a time
Try new things / hobbies
Walk new routes
Hang out with positive people
Support, support, support.
Count your blessings
DECIDE TO BE HAPPY – IT’S CONTAGIOUS