Monthly Archives: March 2012

The Biology of Happiness

24 Mar

It is said that once you have enough money for essential things in life, that happiness does not get greater with external things. Happiness comes from within. 50% of our happiness is predetermined, genetic ; 10% is situational – life circumstances, job etc and 40% is changeable/modifiable – your attitude – how you decide to look at things. Happier people feel more fulfilled , whether the rickshaw driver in Bombay or farmer in the fields.

Being happy and laughing, we produce good hormones – dopamine and serotonin. Aerobic exercise is excellent at producing these too. These hormones improve mood. It is because of this biology that we do better after adversity by mixing with good friends to laugh at the funny things in life or weird things people say! It is because of this biology that taking steps towards some physical activity will pump out the good endorphins and change your mood. It is noted also that those people with good supports have better outcomes through adversity, encouraged to take next steps with more confidence.

Endorphins play a role in pain control. Pain has many components including emotional pain. If we don’t address all parts of pain control, then we will not control it. Controlling physical pain is only one part of pain control – sometimes a concept overlooked.

It is also noticed that there is a state that people can reach where your thoughts are uninterrupted and the mind is happily concentrating. I call it the place in your head where time stands still – doing art or tennis, for some it is music or running. It has been called Flow – producing good endorphins like meditation. It is pure science.

How can we do this? Activate your internal locus of control – The “I can do it” / determination part of you and learn to love and believe in the new and wonderful person that you are.

Meet a friend for coffee and laugh till your cheeks hurt

Connect via email, facebook, twitter so you are not alone

Exercise: walk, elliptical, stationary bike

Mindfulness / flow: hobbies, yoga, meditation

Help others & give back

Find the good in a situation, no matter how hard

Focus life to living in the present

Take the tough climb, one step at a time

Try new things / hobbies

Walk new routes

Hang out with positive people

Support, support, support.

Count your blessings

DECIDE TO BE HAPPY – IT’S CONTAGIOUS

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Positive Thinking: Words of wisdom card #5

18 Mar

When life sends you curve balls, sometimes they are harder to hit back than you think: Pain, fatigue and limitations make some days a struggle to keep up fast pace at work with one very awkward casted purple arm. And so, I pull out my positive thinking from my back pocket and write down the things that keep my on the cup half full side of life -always remembering how it nearly all got taken away; and lucky that I love talking and for the 2nd fracture in a year that I am not a surgeon so I can keep working…..

Here’s my next card to share how to move on… Words of Wisdom #5

Trust your intuition, where there’s a will, there’s a way, laugh, give yourself permission to rest, look at what you can do, face the bumps with a smile, life is full of surprises – be adaptable, keep learning, make achievable goals, stay connected, ask for help, make lists, choose to be happy, work out to great music, don’t procrastinate, make it happen, the best things in life are free, don’t be afraid to begin, book friends time, style points count – make the effort, pick up the phone and call, be young at heart, no regrets, take different routes, try new things, challenge yourself, book walk and talk time together, positive energy is contagious, believe in yourself, be authentic., commit, hang out with positive people, rise above adversity, give back, love the new you – bigger by experience, feel good moments – freeze frame.

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Spot the Fracture

11 Mar

It is the 3rd month of 2012, 3 months since my last anesthetic for a cholecystectomy and exactly 1 year since my broken left shoulder from snowboarding in deep powder. 1 year, 2 mnths back to work and 1 year 4 mnths since my cancer treatments finished.  2012 was looking like a good clear year….

No, Im not a good skater but I am always willing to try. It was a gorgeous day on the lake, completely frozen all over as far as the eye could see. The kids were away and one of those escape weekends at our cottage. We went for a walk but the ice was too inviting for my husband – we would go back and put on skates.

I know my bones are osteopenic and just started bisphosphonate treatment but my husband assured me that holding a hockey stick would add stability. Shuffle shuffle glide – the ice was very hard and bumpy.

Then about ½ km out on the lake a split second of loosing my balance and wham – instinctively I put out my left hand and watched as it bent further than any hand should bend. A shooting pain went up my arm and I knew….

There was only one way back to the cottage – skating back with my broken arm. Any wobble and the pain screamed as I could feel how loose my wrist was. I took off my coat and saw the S shape in my forearm.

As luck would have it, my husband is an orthopedic surgeon. He had seen just one too many of my painful surgeries and sending me into anesthetic procedures so called a colleague to look after me.

My friendly hospital were getting too used to seeing me on the other side and I greeted a couple of my patients as they wondered what my next calamity was.

It was angulated and very broken in lots of pieces and needed reducing (straightening) under anesthetic. So I resigned myself to this year’s procedure and was put asleep as they pulled it straight and molded a cast to keep it there.

And so I sit, typing with one hand, the other in an awkward Colles fracture splint that tilts the wrist to make it very difficult to use.  My fingers look like sausages but luckily I was never hand model material anyway. My rings now live on my necklace for a while.

Off the tennis team now, so on with the art classes. I’ll manage work with good colleagues to call upon when I’m stuck. My make up is not as good and my hair may take on a ‘natural’ look but look out elliptical trainer with one arm! I think I will catch up on some good books on my ipad too since no pages to hold with that. I get out of cleaning and cooking too. I see the good already….

I thought you my like a little medical post – not hard to see the fracture.

So don’t stop going beyond your comfort zone but know your limits too!

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Always Keep Learning

3 Mar

It seems only yesterday that I had to call the conference and ask for a refund because I had cancer and was undergoing extensive surgery. It was so hard to learn to let go of the innocent person I was and know that my life was threatened and would always live with that cancer label. Then, slowly, I found a new and bigger person….. a perseverence to practice again and use that journey to help others. – An unquenchable thirst to explore more areas of medicine, psychotherapy, palliative care. Cancer can be that awakening that tells you not to be on that treadmill of life but to notice and love every day as your last and make even the ordinary things feel extraordinary.
Cancer comes upon us – we have no choice, but we have some choice how we use it’s experience – this can be inspiring….. always keep learning….

Learning to communicate at a new level
Learning compassion and humility – always
Learning new medical guidelines and applying them
Learning new medications and how to use them
Learning new areas of medicine because it interests me
Learning to say yes to things that scare me
Learning to say no when I am exhausted
Learning that my fears do not have to control me
Learning more about palliative care and applying it with my heart
Learning to love the new me
Learning that I cannot do everything
Learning to trust an inner spirit of patience
Learning to trust my doctors and my future
Learning that I have willpower to do great things
Learning new art skills
Learn to play music
Learn about wine
I have lots more to learn…..

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