Be open, honest (with tact) and be sensitive to your friend/ family. Cancer, like many diseases, is not easy to live with. We survivors know that it is difficult for a friend/family member to understand what we’re going through; sometimes only another survivor can truly “get” what we’re feeling emotionally and physically. The last thing we need is a false cheerfulness or the “everything is going to be okay” attitude. We realize that you might be as frightened of what is happening as we are, perhaps even more so; that’s okay. That’s being human.
You know your friend/family member better that anyone else. Gauge how he/she will react to questions/ assistance - some may respond positively, others will shutdown and not want to talk about it (cancer). Just offer to be there for any need at any time.
One other thing that’s really important - we’re not social pariahs. It’s a disease. It doesn’t define who we were, are or will be. Please don’t treat us differently. We’re still the same old people you’ve always known; we’re just going through a very rough patch.
Thanks for your patience
just be there let them know they are loved